It's Your Time to Shine!

Brrrrrrr.

This cold weather snap is definitely reminding me that the winter holidays are approaching (though it will probably be 70 degrees by the time you are reading this…oh, Kentucky weather.)

The upcoming season brings lots of things along with it, and for many one of those is feeling pressured to eat in a way that doesn’t reflect their values, goals or personal tastes. Whether it’s a well-meaning co-worker or a tone-deaf great-aunt, you may feel challenged as you try to set boundaries and stand up for your food beliefs and/or eating behaviors. Karen will guide your discussion as you learn strategies to employ in these situations, and I’ve got two ideas below.

1. I like to use phrases that remind people that what I do with my body is my choice if I am not bringing harm. A statement like, “This is what is best for me right now,” says a lot. You’re not being defensive by owning your behavior, nor are you pushing it on anybody. I’m also a big fan of expressing gratitude for their understanding…even if they don’t exactly understand. Saying something along the lines of “Thank you for respecting my decision” is powerful. Be friendly, but firm.
2. Sometimes we encounter that person who just doesn’t know when to let up. They have an opinion about everything and love to give someone a hard time. In this type of situation, your best response is often no response. They want you to argue with them, and they’re just dying to give you all of their opinions. Trust me when I say that there is no way you’ll “win” with them. So, what can you do here? I typically look these people in the eye, smile, and then go about my business, whatever that is. I keep doing whatever I’m doing in silence or talking to somebody else. You do not owe them an explanation. If they continue, it may serve you best to be very honest with them by saying something like, “I prefer not to discuss this. Thanks for understanding,” and then keep the conversation movin’ in a different direction.

Often, when somebody has a hard time with your healthy eating or exercise routine, it’s not you – it’s them. It can be disheartening to feel like some of your close friends or family aren’t being supportive, but it’s important to recognize that we can’t control how they react. The best we can do is own our choices and shine while on our own path. You'll be stronger for it.