Say No to Food Pushers!

It's that time of year when food pushers come out of the woodwork! It can feel like everyone is hounding you to try their holiday food creations, and you might be finding it difficult to withstand the pressure. Let's start by understanding why people push food, which can give us some clues about how to deal with food pushers:

Cultural norms and traditions: In many cultures, offering food is a necessary part of being a good host. If you say no or don't eat "enough" food, the host might feel like they're not doing a good job of hosting you.

Insecurity or validation: Some people might push food on you because it makes them feel better about what they’re eating. If you’re also eating, it can help them feel less guilty about their own food choices.

Many people find it helpful to have specific responses prepared when food pushers arrive on the scene. Here is a list of phrases you might use:

• "No, thank you, I'm good for now."

• "I appreciate the offer, but I'll have to pass this time."

• “I am already full, but I would love to take some home!”

• "Not right now, but thanks for offering!"

• "It looks delicious, but I don't want to overdo it."

• "You know I love your cooking, but I'm full."

• "I've had plenty, thank you."

• "I need to save room for later!"

• "That was a big meal and I can't eat another bite!"

• "It looks delicious - you should definitely enjoy it!"

• "You're such a good cook, but I can't eat any more right now."

• "You go ahead, I'm sure it's great. I've just had enough."

• "I'm sure it's tasty, but I'm full right now."

You may it difficult to decline food offers directly, so sometimes citing dietary restrictions can feel like an easier way to handle the situation: 
 

• "Thanks for the offer, but I have some dietary restrictions."

• "I appreciate it, but my diet doesn't allow that right now."

• "I can't eat that, but it looks great."

• "I don't think that will sit well in my stomach, so I'll have to decline."

• "I can't have that, but don't let me stop you."

And remember: It's okay to simply say "no" when someone is pushing food your way - you don't owe anyone an explanation for your choices!